Conversations with the boys...

We have been living in Shanghai for almost two years now. The first year was hard for everyone, getting used to the different way of doing things around here, new school and friends. Now coming to the end of our second year, we have finally settled in nicely then came the bombshell.

To be fair, I knew it was coming all along. After all it has been brought to the table many times in the past year but each time we declined, requesting for just a tad more time here.

So now its decision time. To move together as a family or to stay put in Shanghai while the hubby commute.

I decided to ask Ethan. And boy was I surprised with his answers.

M: Ethan, Daddy needs to work in SZ, would you like to stay in SH or move with him?

E: Does the new job means Daddy gets more pay? 

M: Nope

E: If not, why bother to move? So if we move together, does it mean I will see daddy more often?

M: Probably not. He will be really busy in the beginning.

E: In that case, it makes no difference whether I am in SH or SZ, then I choose SH

M: You know that means you will only see him on weekends.

E: I know. I have a good life here you know. School that I like & friends.

M: Your best friend from singapore is coming over to SZ to live too. Will that make you want to move to SZ too?

E: Not really. I still prefer to be in SH in my school with my friends

M: Fine. But you know we have to move someday. Its part of the job. You know it. So you have to be prepared. 

E: I know. I just want one more year here. Then I will be ready to move.

Jonathan was listening and at this point  he asked "Why do we always have to change house and hotel? Why do we always have to move?"

Boy how do you explain to him?

Jonathan however is stuck in the middle. On one hand he will miss his daddy very much yet on the other hand he is loving his teachers and friends in school. When Ethan insist on getting his decision. He cried and angrily retorted "Stop asking me!"

With that in mind, I think for now, we have decided to give Ethan another year here in SH while daddy commutes. I am thankful that SZ is just a short train ride away making commuting possible. 

Meanwhile I think its time to start preparing all of us for the big move ahead....

Oh how the boys have grown especially Ethan.